Trailer setup-I'm soo screwed!

[Dodgerrr]

I will try and get right to the point. Getting this boat back on the trailer is a nightmare. By the time I am done, I'm soaked to the bone and exhausted from trying to lift the bow by hand high enough to enter the front bow supports.
Pictures included are basically measurements of where my boat sits on the trailer. I have waaaay tooo much tongue weight. Takes two guys to lift it.
Question: Where should I start adjusting the trailer? Looking at other V20's I notice that the winch is much lower.
Thanks everyone.
Dodgerrr.