Just when you think can't get worse

[Destroyer]

Joe, many many many prayers sent for both your wife and you. Hope things do a turn about for the better. God bless man.

[macojoe]

Just to update, I have not said much But we have started to make arrangements and calling Hospice back in. She has been move 5 time now back and fourth from the nursing home to the hosp. She is in Hossp now. They have made me the health care proxy as she is not with it. She is so thin and friel that they say if the have to try they are going to hurt her,So I have put the DNR in order today.
She was raching out today, I asked what you reaching for? she says the door, why?? "I am going out" were? I am going with my sister Karen ( she died the week before xmas) as I sat in tears I said its ok to go! She said open the door for me, I said you have to do it your self. She tryed for about 20 min then stopped.
So if I disappear for a bit you will know why, my kids (my son mostly) are taking it very hard!!!! He wants her to stay long enough to see his new son which is due in 2 weeks, Have no idea if its going to happen?? Ok I am Talk to you soon

[Destroyer]

Joe, I went thru the same thing with my first wife 35+ years ago. (She died of lung cancer) There is nothing I can say except that you have to accept that it's a blessing for them to walk thru that door. Their pain and suffering stops, and really, when all is said and done, isn't that what we wish for our loved ones? That they aren't suffering anymore? That their pain is gone? I know your heartfelt pain only too well, and about the only thing I can say is that it will diminish a little over time. It never really goes completely away, but it will get better. Time is a wonderful healer of both the mind and the heart. I pray for you and I pray for her that you will overcome this tragic event. You are both in my daily prayers. God bless you both.

[Blue_Runner]

Thinking of you and your wife MJ!!!!!!!!!! Stay strong

[roffey]

Originally Posted by Destroyer

I know your heartfelt pain only too well, and about the only thing I can say is that it will diminish a little over time. It never really goes completely away, but it will get better. Time is a wonderful healer of both the mind and the heart. I pray for you and I pray for her that you will overcome this tragic event.

beautifully said

[smokeonthewater]

MJ... I'm so sorry for your pain and hers

[phatdaddy]

i went through this with my parents, both did the "reaching" for loved ones. it was comforting to me because it told me they did not want to be here anymore and wanted to see what was next.

the passing of parents is a natural order, losing a spouse or child is a lot tougher, destroyer's right, once you see she is not suffering, it will help.

do what you can while you can,

[DiverDux]

MJ-
Please know we here in Ohio are thinking of you and praying for you. I'll light a candle for you all at mass in the morning.
God bless,
Ed

[macojoe]

They called 8:30 AM to say she has become septic, not breathing well, she is on drugs to keep the blood perssure up,, and on the resperator. Doc says they are doing all they can, wait 24 hour to see if she turns around if not thats it. I am now her health care proxy and put the DNR in place. This is what I was trying to avoid just wanted her to go, not left up to us to pull the plug! We will see what tomorrow brings.

Thanks All for all the prays and thoughts!! It means alot!!

Joe

[bradford]

I feel the reaching is a good thing. Means someone familiar is there to help her across. I lost my Dad unexpectedly. Got a phone call at 7:16 am from a cousin I hadn't spoken to in years. The only good thing is you have a chance to say goodbye, but I'm know it's got to be hell watching her slowly get there. Try and stay strong for your kids, but you'll need to grieve too, do what feels right.

We're here for you.