This is life

[garagenc]

Originally Posted by roffey

My Mother had advanced Alzheimer’s and was very difficult to deal with. She thought I was her husband. Mom would get mad at me for leaving her and ask how I could leave her in such a horrible place. She would say you just can’t treat people like this. Mom would do this every time I went to visit her making the trip to the home very difficult. Mom could not stay with me in my hpuse as she would wonder and try to make it back to her house, the house she lived in with her parents when she was a child. She was my Mom and I love her and still miss her to this day. I held her hand, stroked her head and told her I loved her as she passed away… I still feel guilty for sitting by her bed and not doing more to save her but know in my heart she is in a better place now.
My Mom and Dad had a full life and lived in to their eighties. They were great parents and I modeled my parenting skills after them. When I have a hard decision to make I ask myself what Dad would do…
So,,, you do what you have to and take care of the older ones while they are here.

What a great reply

[wellcraftv20step]

garagenc, i couldn't agree more.

[Road King Cole]

Yes, you will feel good in the end by doing the right thing.

rkc

[willy]

Having gone through this with one parent and living with another coming soon I think all of us really can feel your pain.
Enjoy the time with him, and never think that even those that appear to be gone mentally do not have an appreciative Spirit inside.
Do what you have to do to ease your wife's anxiety and go fishing with a friend or on a head boat type thing.
Good luck to you and a prayer said for you Father In Law.

[Destroyer]

My dad caught Alzheimers when he was 82. He lasted till he was 92 and it finally killed him. It's a horrible sickness because it slowly destroys the person you loved and leaves only the shell. People wondered why I didn't cry at my fathers funeral. My only reply was that my father (his personality) died 10 years earlier. If I could offer just one bit of advice to todays youth it would be to treasure all the time you have left with your parents. It goes by so quickly, and when they go there is this hole inside of you that will never be full again. Savor the moments.

[wellcraftv20step]

Hey guys, thanks for all the kind words, some of you have been through hell, i guess we all go through it. thank's really.

[roffey]

Originally Posted by Destroyer

My dad caught Alzheimers when he was 82. He lasted till he was 92 and it finally killed him. It's a horrible sickness because it slowly destroys the person you loved and leaves only the shell. People wondered why I didn't cry at my fathers funeral. My only reply was that my father (his personality) died 10 years earlier. If I could offer just one bit of advice to todays youth it would be to treasure all the time you have left with your parents. It goes by so quickly, and when they go there is this hole inside of you that will never be full again. Savor the moments.

Exactly what I went through. I have my Father’s name, I look and sounded just like him. To this day people still think they are talking to my father. My Mom thought I was Dad and was not happy with me. When she passed away I was happy for her in a way. She was Ok and was with Dad. Like you I did not cry, but still miss my Mom and Dad.

[rb437]

A tough time, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing.