This is life

[wellcraftv20step]

I really was not sure where to post this but here goes. Due to the economy mrs. Wellcraftv20step lost her job a while back and she is not having much luck finding employment at least at the salery she was used to. She has been offered many positions at a fraction of that. here's the rub, we have her dad living with us , he is 90 has a bad heart , Valve replacement 2 years ago,mesotheleoma and a growth on his lung that we all have decided to not pursue any tratment for because of his heart and age. He was also for a time in a coma for 2 months with double pnuemonia.. He has his own apt on the ground floor and cooks himself 3 squares a day, ( one tough old Polock i'd say) but does need alot of help with many things. Needless to say its been hell on the mrs . She sleeps with a baby monitor on her night table so she can hear every move and sound he makes i dont think she ever really sleeps! Now I convinced her just to stay home and be here for him which in turn will really take the stress off her . So now here is the other problem.Money worries!! My youngest of three daughters is getting married in aug. This kills all my plans of redoing my v so i have decided to just part her out. if anyone needs any parts just let me know

[Stillrunning]

Your parting out your daughter?


Hope things get better.

[smokeonthewater]

really sorry to hear all that..... Here's hoping things will turn around for you soon.
At least a lower stress level in the house will be a good thing.

[Destroyer]

Sorry to hear about your problems. I'm going thru a similar situation with my mother right now, so I understand very well. Money is tight all over in this economy. Wish there was something I could say or do to help. Just don't be a stranger to these forums. You're not the first boatless person here, and I'm sure you won't be the last.

[charlie_the_tuna]

sorry to hear, john. i'm sure things will improve at some point. crossing my fingers for you guys.

[phatdaddy]

whats that old saying, "if you want to make god laugh, just tell him your plans." i went through the same thing with my dad. i only worked about 10 - 15 hours a week and took care of him the rest of the time. after he passed, i realized how much that it meant to me to be able to take care of him like that. i know its rough on your wife , but one day she will miss being able to care for him.
as far as your daughter, take care of her needs, plenty of boats to get to later.

[roffey]

My Mother had advanced Alzheimer***8217;s and was very difficult to deal with. She thought I was her husband. Mom would get mad at me for leaving her and ask how I could leave her in such a horrible place. She would say you just can***8217;t treat people like this. Mom would do this every time I went to visit her making the trip to the home very difficult. Mom could not stay with me in my house as she would wander and try to make it back to her house, the house she lived in with her parents when she was a child. She was my Mom and I love her and still miss her to this day. I held her hand, stroked her head and told her I loved her as she passed away***8230; I still feel guilty for sitting by her bed and not doing more to save her but know in my heart she is in a better place now.
My Mom and Dad had a full life and lived in to their eighties. They were great parents and I modeled my parenting skills after them. When I have a hard decision to make I ask myself what Dad would do***8230;
So,,, you do what you have to and take care of the older ones while they are here.

[garagenc]

Originally Posted by roffey

My Mother had advanced Alzheimer’s and was very difficult to deal with. She thought I was her husband. Mom would get mad at me for leaving her and ask how I could leave her in such a horrible place. She would say you just can’t treat people like this. Mom would do this every time I went to visit her making the trip to the home very difficult. Mom could not stay with me in my hpuse as she would wonder and try to make it back to her house, the house she lived in with her parents when she was a child. She was my Mom and I love her and still miss her to this day. I held her hand, stroked her head and told her I loved her as she passed away… I still feel guilty for sitting by her bed and not doing more to save her but know in my heart she is in a better place now.
My Mom and Dad had a full life and lived in to their eighties. They were great parents and I modeled my parenting skills after them. When I have a hard decision to make I ask myself what Dad would do…
So,,, you do what you have to and take care of the older ones while they are here.

What a great reply

[wellcraftv20step]

garagenc, i couldn't agree more.

[Road King Cole]

Yes, you will feel good in the end by doing the right thing.

rkc