My Mom

[CaptJ]

MJ, sorry to hear the bad news. Your mom and family are in our prayers.

[step up here]

very sorry to hear about mom
prayers sent!

[macojoe]

Thanks all!!

I was there all day mother sitting 2 day while my brother had to get some thins done, she was awake and talking to me the whole time!

I called the Daner Farber Cancer center today and explained all, We are having all records faxed there tomorrow and then they will make her a appointment with there people for a 2nd opinion.
she said she did not want to piss off her current doctor, i said you will not!! Hell if someone told me i was going to die you bet your *** i want to know they were right or wrong! Heck i had a 2nd for my eye surgery!
Also called Hospice today to see if they can offer some help in a few areas also.
So we are trying to get things taken care of for her, she is to start chemo on wed, Hope that goes well for her??

Sorry if I am boring you guys but its nice to vent here!

Thanks!!

[Destroyer]

Originally Posted by macojoe

Sorry if I am boring you guys but its nice to vent here!

Thanks!!

MJ that's what real friends are for... They stay with you in the bad times as well as the good. You're not boring, and you're not venting. You're trying to work your way through a terrible situation. I wish we could do more than just listen and pray, but sometimes that's all that's needed. Hang in there bro.

[Mac_Attack]

MJ sorry to hear about your mother. My prayers areher and your family.

[Road King Cole]

That's great you are going to dana farber. I had the same issues with both of my parents trying to get them out of toby into boston.

Doctors are used to that, no need to worry.

Keep us updated!

rkc

[chumbucket]

I told MJ to check out Dana-Farber as they now have a satellite facility in Weymouth. I went there for some treatments and they are fantastic over there. And it's still much easier than going into Boston as I had done in the past.
I think his Mom will like them.

[macojoe]

yes and we are having all faxed there tomorrow.
thanks CB!

Hospice person meet with us today and were very helpful!! her doc would talk to them today and they wanted to come tomorrow, but i said its her first day of chemo that thur might be a better option for them to come and get her in rolled with there program.

They offer a nurse 24-7-365 for what ever she may need even a visit at 3 am if they can't help on the phone! Also a personal care person to help with showers, light cleaning, heat up or make simple meals, volunteers for companion ship , even church at home!
Everything is FREE! with her health ins.

[bradford]

Keep us posted MJ. Some of us have gone through similar situations in the past and some of us will sometime in the future. God bless.

[aussie]

Originally Posted by spareparts

my mother is 78 and has been going thru treatment since the spring of 09. She went thru a hysterectomy, radiation, chemo and was given a similar prognosis. She was initially deeply depressed, she still is a bit at times, but shes come to adjust to it and accept it as part of her life. She used my daughter as inspiration to get thru the tough times of chemo. My daughter told her is she could handle it, then grandma could. My mother has surpassed the expectations of the doctors.
It's a tough situation, it seems my family has been in it in one way or another for the past 10 years. We looked at it initially as why have we been singled out, it didn't take us long to figure out we're not singled out, cancer is all around us every where, people are living and fighting it every day, everywhere you go. We are now involved with three different organizations that deal with cancer in children. We've meet and lost some good friends, its when we are surrounded with others that we realize that we haven't been singled out. My family has been strengthened by the people we've met thru it all. My mother now looks forward to the time at chemo so she can talk to the other patients there, shes met a lot of new friends, young and old, its a common bond thru them all. Her water aerobics class(part of her rehabilitation process) is the highlight of her week. I'm not going to patronize anyone by saying "its going to get better" and all the other cliche's that we hear. And as hard as it sounds, it is part of life, just one more challenge that we have to endure. When my wife went thru treatment and operations, she told me she was looking at it (much to my dismay) as the boob reduction she always wanted. One day when she was pumping gas, a women(complete stranger) noticed my wife( no hair from chemo) and walked up to her, she told my wife it was ok, this women was also survivor. My wife had been in the dumps that day, but those words from a complete stranger lifted her spirits. Our friend erik went thru gamma knife treatment yesterday, he's taking today off, but he's going back to school tomorrow. He's had the maximum amount of radiation allowed for his life, he's still taking chemo each day and will for a while. He's determined to graduate high school and get accepted to college, at 17 years old he's been given a 30% chance of making it to his next birthday, this will be his forth time fighting cancer at his young age. He accepts it as another challenge of his life, he's determined to live and not let it run his life.
Best wishes to you and your mother, our family will keep you both in our prayers. Tell your mother to keep her head up, its just another day and another challenge of life, we all go thru it each and everyday.

well said spares im lost for words