Just when you think can't get worse

[roffey]

Originally Posted by Destroyer

I know your heartfelt pain only too well, and about the only thing I can say is that it will diminish a little over time. It never really goes completely away, but it will get better. Time is a wonderful healer of both the mind and the heart. I pray for you and I pray for her that you will overcome this tragic event.

beautifully said

[smokeonthewater]

MJ... I'm so sorry for your pain and hers

[phatdaddy]

i went through this with my parents, both did the "reaching" for loved ones. it was comforting to me because it told me they did not want to be here anymore and wanted to see what was next.

the passing of parents is a natural order, losing a spouse or child is a lot tougher, destroyer's right, once you see she is not suffering, it will help.

do what you can while you can,

[DiverDux]

MJ-
Please know we here in Ohio are thinking of you and praying for you. I'll light a candle for you all at mass in the morning.
God bless,
Ed

[macojoe]

They called 8:30 AM to say she has become septic, not breathing well, she is on drugs to keep the blood perssure up,, and on the resperator. Doc says they are doing all they can, wait 24 hour to see if she turns around if not thats it. I am now her health care proxy and put the DNR in place. This is what I was trying to avoid just wanted her to go, not left up to us to pull the plug! We will see what tomorrow brings.

Thanks All for all the prays and thoughts!! It means alot!!

Joe

[bradford]

I feel the reaching is a good thing. Means someone familiar is there to help her across. I lost my Dad unexpectedly. Got a phone call at 7:16 am from a cousin I hadn't spoken to in years. The only good thing is you have a chance to say goodbye, but I'm know it's got to be hell watching her slowly get there. Try and stay strong for your kids, but you'll need to grieve too, do what feels right.

We're here for you.

[macojoe]

Ok today was a hell of a day!! As a family my kids have broken down and emoations ran wild! Things were said that should have never been said, But in the end we all hugged and went are way.
Doc came in and said that the seatives have been off since yesterday, she is still hooked up to the machines but they are turned off, and she is maintaing her B/P, and breating on her own! But she will not wake up?? and she needs to be awake to pull the tube so she can cough all the crap out. Tomorrow will be 72 hours and she should be awake? they say they see this in mostly older people but she is young. Might be all the brain damage from all the low blood sugars??But the tube will come out tomorrow and if all goes well great! If not the we go into comfort mode which is a morphine drip, and then she won't feel anything and will go to sleep and the pass in her sleep.
So there is another hard day coming tomorrow!! after missing dialysis I have to go tomorrow, even her doctor yelled at me for not going yesterday. So I will go and then drive there so they can do wht needs to be done, my daughter will come down and get me in a wheelchair cause I dont feel well after my treatment never mind mussing a day then going I am sure 8I will be wiped.

Thank You all for your thoughts and prays!!!!!!!!!!!Please contuniue!!
Joe