My Mom

[Destroyer]

Originally Posted by macojoe

Thanks for the support guys!! She was a little more awake today, and seemed better! But we know the truth. Just hope in the end its fast and painless for her!!

Amen

[wellcraftv20step]

I just want to say how very sorry i am for you Mj

[macojoe]

Thanks All!

mom is coming home tomorrow, she has said for years now that she never wanted to be put in a nursing home or anything!!! She always said she wanted to die at home, and she asked to go home yesterday!!
Well after talking with doc last night i called hospice this morning at 9am, they meet me at thye hosiptal at 1:30 pj, after a 1 hour meeting they ordered a hosptai bed, walker, wheelchair, and all meds and other things we will need to get her home. Boy they are fast all was delivered at her house today at 4:30pm!!
The doc called 6pm to answer some questions i had on her meds, as there was a question on soime of the meds that needed to be cleared up.
I also called my uncle in NY as she wants to be put with her mother anf father, so I need to know the cost of everything.

I wrote her a letter for mothers day a few weeks ago, but she might not make it? So I am going to give it to her soon, here it is

Mom I know this is not a fancy store bought card with pretty pictures, and a fancy poem. But it***8217;s the only way I could get one to say what I wanted!
Ma, I know I never say it, but I hope you already know just how much you mean to me!! For some reason I feel stupid to say it, even to you? But I am so glad you are my mother!! It is in a large part because of you that I am the man I am today, and I am grateful for that, and all the things you have taught me, and have done for me!
This is why I am choosing this Mothers Day to say***8230;***8230;
I LOVE YOU!!

[reelapeelin]

Only real men can talk to and about their mother in those terms...you stepped up to a tough plate, MJ...

[Destroyer]

Like Reel just said, only real men, men that are secure in themselves, can talk in those terms. I tell my mom every chance I get that I love her. I just wish I would have told my father before he died. It's a regret that I'll carry for the rest of my life. Telling your mom now is the best thing that you can do for both of you. God bless you both.

[Blue_Runner]

That is some very difficult news to hear. So sorry for you and your family.

The mother's day card is especially touching....I appreciate you sharing that with us. The hand written cards do mean so much more than anything you could buy.

I for one am going to make a point to tell my parents how much I love them, and tell them often.

[Monkey Butler]

MJ,

I know some like to poke you a little bit with the Windtalker thing and all that. (I don't because I live close enough to you that you could be here in an hour to kick my a$$).

But that is one of the best worded things I have seen written here, by anyone. Your character and love for your mom come through more clearly than could be expressed in a whole book.

My heart goes out to your mom and yourself and your whole family.

[lumberslinger178]

very nice mj may god bless you and your family.

[the daydreamer]

mj so sorry to here the latest on your mother. i know it is a very tough time for you and your family. i went through this last january with my mother. be there all you can,hold her hand and talk to her. you may not think that she understands or can her you but i am here to tell you she can!!!!!!!tell her its ok you understand.hospice told us that sometimes a loved one will try to stay with us because they feel like there are letting us down.tell her its ok to go be with the lord!!! keep strong brother!!!!!!!

[macojoe]

well just got home, doc called a meeting tonight with my mother and her 4 boys, we all met with him at the hosiptal. he then told us that the tumor is not oprabale and that he is changing her meds, after a little more info we are having hospice come in and get the house set up for her.
we then have the right to bring her home! at this time knowing what he told her and us she stated that she wants the DNR now. i explained it all to her again and she stated it not going to make a difference so why not, so we signed it tonight.

he also told us that she will be gone in a few weeks!! a month at best she then asked how will it happen?? he stated that tye pain will be getting worse by then and he will give her more pain meds to keep her comfortable and as the time gets closer she will get more and more tired till she goes to sleep and she will just pass, man i about hit the floor!!
she is taking it very well!

so tomorrow we will start getting the house ready for her and she will be home this weekend.
its going to be a hard few weeks!