My Mom

[Stinky_Hooker]

Sending prayers your way big guy.

[chumbucket]

I was just talking to MJ. Seems his Mom has taken a turn for the worse and her prognosis is not very good right now.
If they needed our thoughts and prayers, the time is now fellas.

[macojoe]

Thanks CB for letting them know!

Mom got real sick, and doc said no chemo she was to weak. Put her in hospital to see if they could try and get her a bit stronger, she started to cough up ton;s of blood yesterday night, they put a tube in to suck all the blood out and gave her some more, they tested her and found a big tumor in her small intestine that caused the bleed and they also said its why she can't eat.
she need to get the tumor, but they said there is 2 ways to do it but she will not survive the operation!
So today was another hard day! she seems to be doing much better but we talked and decided to sign a DNR order, man was that hard! i have been pretty good around her till today, i lost it
on top of that i am in charge of burial and all her banking and other stuff. never thought it was going to be this tuff!

[charlie_the_tuna]

sorry to hear, big guy. unfortunately i know just how tough this is gonna be. just make sure you tell your mom everything you wanted and dont leave any issues unresolved. keep your family together and gather strength from each other. you know i dont pray because i dont believe in a god who would let people suffer like this but just know we're all thinking about you in this very difficult time.
peace brother.

[Destroyer]

These are the hardest times a person can face. I'm so very sorry for you and your mom MJ.. Many, many prayers going your way.

I don't know how you feel about this, but you say she has a tumor that she will not survive the operation to get at...to my way of thinking if getting the tumor might give her additional time, then if it were me in her position I'd tell the docs to go get the damn thing. I think I'd like to choose the way I go out, and I'd like to go out fighting, not laying around waiting for it to happen. Just me and my two cents, I hope you're not offended by it. No harm is meant.. I just feel that even a 1% chance is better than 0%. :(

[lumberslinger178]

Sorry to hear this...

[macojoe]

Thanks for the support guys!!

She was a little more awake today, and seemed better! But we know the truth.

Destroyer: I hope you're not offended by it. No harm is meant.. I just feel that even a 1% chance is better than 0%. :(

I am in no way offended!! I have thought the same way, but its up to her and she says no! she is done with cutting and all the crap!! she is really taking this better then anyone else.
she was also not under standing the DNR and wanted it done a different way with conditions, doc told her its yes or no nothing in between!
so after we spoke i said the best way is let them try to save you, and if they can great, but when the doc tells me you are gone, i will get the brothers together and we will tell him to let you go, i promise i will not let you be on all them machines, and she agreed and thanked me.
but that's another thing that i hope i never have to do!! just hope in the end its fast and painless for her!!

[reelapeelin]

MJ...I know the end came pretty quietly for my mom in 2008...she was in a nursing home and just kind of drifted away...interesting; the ladies who work there, told us to the day when she would pass 3 days in advance...after a while, they can see it coming...they just know...

[bradford]

Stay strong Brother. Like Charlie said, be there for her and the rest of your family, and let them be there for you too. God bless ya'll.

[Destroyer]

Originally Posted by macojoe

Thanks for the support guys!! She was a little more awake today, and seemed better! But we know the truth. Just hope in the end its fast and painless for her!!

Amen