My Mom

[charlie_the_tuna]

sorry to hear, big guy. unfortunately i know just how tough this is gonna be. just make sure you tell your mom everything you wanted and dont leave any issues unresolved. keep your family together and gather strength from each other. you know i dont pray because i dont believe in a god who would let people suffer like this but just know we're all thinking about you in this very difficult time.
peace brother.

[Destroyer]

These are the hardest times a person can face. I'm so very sorry for you and your mom MJ.. Many, many prayers going your way.

I don't know how you feel about this, but you say she has a tumor that she will not survive the operation to get at...to my way of thinking if getting the tumor might give her additional time, then if it were me in her position I'd tell the docs to go get the damn thing. I think I'd like to choose the way I go out, and I'd like to go out fighting, not laying around waiting for it to happen. Just me and my two cents, I hope you're not offended by it. No harm is meant.. I just feel that even a 1% chance is better than 0%. :(

[lumberslinger178]

Sorry to hear this...

[macojoe]

Thanks for the support guys!!

She was a little more awake today, and seemed better! But we know the truth.

Destroyer: I hope you're not offended by it. No harm is meant.. I just feel that even a 1% chance is better than 0%. :(

I am in no way offended!! I have thought the same way, but its up to her and she says no! she is done with cutting and all the crap!! she is really taking this better then anyone else.
she was also not under standing the DNR and wanted it done a different way with conditions, doc told her its yes or no nothing in between!
so after we spoke i said the best way is let them try to save you, and if they can great, but when the doc tells me you are gone, i will get the brothers together and we will tell him to let you go, i promise i will not let you be on all them machines, and she agreed and thanked me.
but that's another thing that i hope i never have to do!! just hope in the end its fast and painless for her!!

[reelapeelin]

MJ...I know the end came pretty quietly for my mom in 2008...she was in a nursing home and just kind of drifted away...interesting; the ladies who work there, told us to the day when she would pass 3 days in advance...after a while, they can see it coming...they just know...

[bradford]

Stay strong Brother. Like Charlie said, be there for her and the rest of your family, and let them be there for you too. God bless ya'll.

[Destroyer]

Originally Posted by macojoe

Thanks for the support guys!! She was a little more awake today, and seemed better! But we know the truth. Just hope in the end its fast and painless for her!!

Amen

[wellcraftv20step]

I just want to say how very sorry i am for you Mj

[macojoe]

Thanks All!

mom is coming home tomorrow, she has said for years now that she never wanted to be put in a nursing home or anything!!! She always said she wanted to die at home, and she asked to go home yesterday!!
Well after talking with doc last night i called hospice this morning at 9am, they meet me at thye hosiptal at 1:30 pj, after a 1 hour meeting they ordered a hosptai bed, walker, wheelchair, and all meds and other things we will need to get her home. Boy they are fast all was delivered at her house today at 4:30pm!!
The doc called 6pm to answer some questions i had on her meds, as there was a question on soime of the meds that needed to be cleared up.
I also called my uncle in NY as she wants to be put with her mother anf father, so I need to know the cost of everything.

I wrote her a letter for mothers day a few weeks ago, but she might not make it? So I am going to give it to her soon, here it is

Mom I know this is not a fancy store bought card with pretty pictures, and a fancy poem. But it***8217;s the only way I could get one to say what I wanted!
Ma, I know I never say it, but I hope you already know just how much you mean to me!! For some reason I feel stupid to say it, even to you? But I am so glad you are my mother!! It is in a large part because of you that I am the man I am today, and I am grateful for that, and all the things you have taught me, and have done for me!
This is why I am choosing this Mothers Day to say***8230;***8230;
I LOVE YOU!!

[the daydreamer]

mj so sorry to here the latest on your mother. i know it is a very tough time for you and your family. i went through this last january with my mother. be there all you can,hold her hand and talk to her. you may not think that she understands or can her you but i am here to tell you she can!!!!!!!tell her its ok you understand.hospice told us that sometimes a loved one will try to stay with us because they feel like there are letting us down.tell her its ok to go be with the lord!!! keep strong brother!!!!!!!