My Mom

[phatdaddy]

sorry to hear that mj, went through similar situation with my dad. we were able to get hospice involved from the begining and they were a great help.

[Cam]

Very sorry to hear this and of course prayers are in order for her......mayb, just maybe, she will beat this. My fingers are crossed for you and her.

[spareparts]

My mother is 78 and has been going thru treatment since the spring of 09. She went thru a hysterectomy, radiation, chemo and was given a similar prognosis. She was initially deeply depressed, she still is a bit at times, but shes come to adjust to it and accept it as part of her life. She used my daughter as inspiration to get thru the tough times of chemo. My daughter told her is she could handle it, then grandma could. My mother has surpassed the expectations of the doctors.
It's a tough situation, it seems my family has been in it in one way or another for the past 10 years. We looked at it initially as why have we been singled out, it didn't take us long to figure out we're not singled out, cancer is all around us every where, people are living and fighting it every day, everywhere you go. We are now involved with three different organizations that deal with cancer in children. We've meet and lost some good friends, its when we are surrounded with others that we realize that we haven't been singled out. My family has been strengthened by the people we've met thru it all. My mother now looks forward to the time at chemo so she can talk to the other patients there, shes met a lot of new friends, young and old, its a common bond thru them all. Her water aerobics class(part of her rehabilitation process) is the highlight of her week. I'm not going to patronize anyone by saying "its going to get better" and all the other cliche's that we hear. And as hard as it sounds, it is part of life, just one more challenge that we have to endure. When my wife went thru treatment and operations, she told me she was looking at it (much to my dismay) as the boob reduction she always wanted. One day when she was pumping gas, a women(complete stranger) noticed my wife( no hair from chemo) and walked up to her, she told my wife it was OK, this women was also survivor. My wife had been in the dumps that day, but those words from a complete stranger lifted her spirits. Our friend Erik went thru gamma knife treatment yesterday, he's taking today off, but he's going back to school tomorrow. He's had the maximum amount of radiation allowed for his life, he's still taking chemo each day and will for a while. He's determined to graduate high school and get accepted to college, at 17 years old he's been given a 30% chance of making it to his next birthday, this will be his forth time fighting cancer at his young age. he accepts it as another challenge of his life, he's determined to live and not let it run his life.
Best wishes to you and your mother, our family will keep you both in our prayers. Tell your mother to keep her head up, its just another day and another challenge of life, we all go thru it each and everyday.

[willy]

My prayers to you and your Mom, sorry to hear this.

[Blue_Runner]

Thoughts and prayers MJ. What a tough thing for your family to find out.

[RWilson2526]

We'll be thinking about you and your mom....

[RidgeRunner]

What a blow. It takes a while to process the bad news, the sooner she comes to realize there is nothing she can do about it, the better. The acceptance stage takes some time. She will come around. When she does, I hope you get to treat her to something nice. Going down that road is never easy but a positive mindset and prayer beat the dickens out of depression and bitterness for all concerned..
I just got a clean report for the 13th year running. I remember when I got the bad news like it was yesterday. Hang in there.

[aussie]

Originally Posted by spareparts

my mother is 78 and has been going thru treatment since the spring of 09. She went thru a hysterectomy, radiation, chemo and was given a similar prognosis. She was initially deeply depressed, she still is a bit at times, but shes come to adjust to it and accept it as part of her life. She used my daughter as inspiration to get thru the tough times of chemo. My daughter told her is she could handle it, then grandma could. My mother has surpassed the expectations of the doctors.
It's a tough situation, it seems my family has been in it in one way or another for the past 10 years. We looked at it initially as why have we been singled out, it didn't take us long to figure out we're not singled out, cancer is all around us every where, people are living and fighting it every day, everywhere you go. We are now involved with three different organizations that deal with cancer in children. We've meet and lost some good friends, its when we are surrounded with others that we realize that we haven't been singled out. My family has been strengthened by the people we've met thru it all. My mother now looks forward to the time at chemo so she can talk to the other patients there, shes met a lot of new friends, young and old, its a common bond thru them all. Her water aerobics class(part of her rehabilitation process) is the highlight of her week. I'm not going to patronize anyone by saying "its going to get better" and all the other cliche's that we hear. And as hard as it sounds, it is part of life, just one more challenge that we have to endure. When my wife went thru treatment and operations, she told me she was looking at it (much to my dismay) as the boob reduction she always wanted. One day when she was pumping gas, a women(complete stranger) noticed my wife( no hair from chemo) and walked up to her, she told my wife it was ok, this women was also survivor. My wife had been in the dumps that day, but those words from a complete stranger lifted her spirits. Our friend erik went thru gamma knife treatment yesterday, he's taking today off, but he's going back to school tomorrow. He's had the maximum amount of radiation allowed for his life, he's still taking chemo each day and will for a while. He's determined to graduate high school and get accepted to college, at 17 years old he's been given a 30% chance of making it to his next birthday, this will be his forth time fighting cancer at his young age. He accepts it as another challenge of his life, he's determined to live and not let it run his life.
Best wishes to you and your mother, our family will keep you both in our prayers. Tell your mother to keep her head up, its just another day and another challenge of life, we all go thru it each and everyday.

well said spares im lost for words

[macojoe]

Mom had chemo on wed, she did good wed, but had some sickness the past few day's, also been sleeping a ton!
We had another uncle down from NY yesterday and she was up some to visit with him but it was a chore for her. He came in the morning and went home in the afternoon. Her sister wants to come down for a few days, but my mom says it going to be to much for her and she feels bad,I said just do what you can and she will understand, and I go there (30 min ride) every day any way so between me and brothers we will keep her busy!

[spareparts]

keep her hydrated and let her sleep, chemo will get you down. You will have to set some rules with visitors, keep kids visit short, anyone with any kind of sickness needs to stay away, allow visits for a little amount of time each day, she needs her rest