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The old saying that it takes two to fight is normally true.
I would assume that the smaller one used the scissors??? I hope you can get your boys in control without causing any more "distance" between them. rkc
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06-06-2011, 07:43 AM
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Aussie, you may have your hands full with those boys. There is a difference between rough and tumble and stabbing. Get a handle on it NOW. If they are pre-teen, I would say it just got out of hand. My 8yr old girl stabbed a boy that was aggravating at school with a pencil two years ago, she got punished, scolded and reasoned with. That appears to have worked. Younger kids don't always make the best choices because they don't have much life experience, if you frame it into the mindset, "Is that how you would like to be treated" it leaves an impression.
If they are teens, they need to know how serious that behavior can be. You know them better than anyone on here. Make the punishment fit the crime. Get the story sorted out and punish the both of them. Keep the Police out of it IMO, you are asking for trouble there. The police may help scare the kids as a tactic of last resort. I only have the one girl, so no real life experience, just throwing out an opinion. Whatever you do, do something, doing nothing will let them know that they can get away with it.
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06-06-2011, 02:01 PM
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I've got 3 kids..all grown... 2 boys and a girl.. the one absolute thing I've found is that every arguement has three sides.. what #1 said, what #2 said and what really happened. It's up to you to sort it all out as best you can. Understand that both of them are waiting now for your reaction.. that will tell them how far they can go in the future. Like Willy said, it's not all that uncommon for siblings to fight. And like Reel said, don't make a decision you're not willing or able to enforce.
Leave the police out of it for now.. this is a family matter. Start by removing all privaleges for both of them... Home, school, back home, schoolwork and chores.. that's it.. No computer games, no tv, no hanging with their friends... no nothing until you get a full accounting of what happened..then give back very limited amounts.. maybe some tv. They need to know that they have to earn back what they used to have. You also need to sit with the one that did the stabbing and talk to him. Let him know how close he came to doing serious damage, and the consequences of that damage... Ask him why he did it. And don't just ask, listen to what he says.. work with him, not against him. Oh, and praying together never hurts.. in fact it helps a great deal. IMHO.
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1987 V20 w/1987 150HP Yamaha on a Shoreland'r Trailer 1978 16.5 Airslot w/1996 120HP Force on a Four Winns trailer 1996 V21 w/1993 200HP Mercury on a Shoreline Trailer All towed by a 5.7L Hemi Durango. If God didn't have a purpose for us we wouldn't be here, so Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. (Leave the rest to God)  Silence, in the face of evil, is itself evil. Not to speak is to speak, not to act is to act. God will not hold us guiltless.
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06-06-2011, 02:20 PM
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all sound advice. my boys are 9 and 13 so i guess i have time before i have to deal with this crap.
so now that you've gotten your advice is it time for jokes and being stupid yet? because i've got a couple winners.
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06-06-2011, 05:44 PM
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well thanks guys at least i no i have some real friends on here .Its very hard to deal with at the moment as i have my health issues and this is the last thing i expected .here is some info on my 2 boys ALEX is 17--6ft3 --220lbs the ADRIAN 18--6ft--200lbs .ALEX is into boxing and ADRIAN basketball--wiegts and running . ADRIAN was the one who got stabbed.ALEX has been bullied since the first day he went to school till the age of 15 and 3 school changes the school system falled .In the end i threaten to beat him up if he came home and said he was picked on i said better son to go down fighting than doing nothing . well he did stand up for himself but now he may be the bully now . Back to the situation the boys r really close slept in the same bed till they were 15 and would kill for each other --- not each other
Spoke with them last nite couldnt belive how different the stories were .Who do you belive im not deciding who is at fault cause both are as you no i have a very short temper which has got me is so much trouble in life .So what i done was no computers. no games xbox . no boxing . no friends or going out . no basket ball TILL BOTH OF THEM CAN COME BACK WITH THE SAME STORY AND AGREE .and i told my wife if u allow them to do anything your on your own. my wife makes it hard cause she gives into them cause they suck up her arse ok jokes r welcome now i have a little penis lol
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06-06-2011, 06:59 PM
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Alex is not allowed to box and /adrian is no basketball til Dad gets the same story from each...
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06-07-2011, 08:03 AM
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Ok now with a bit of humor... Also consider talking to them while you are fixing your sores with a soldering iron.... rkc
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06-07-2011, 11:07 AM
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1987 V20 w/1987 150HP Yamaha on a Shoreland'r Trailer 1978 16.5 Airslot w/1996 120HP Force on a Four Winns trailer 1996 V21 w/1993 200HP Mercury on a Shoreline Trailer All towed by a 5.7L Hemi Durango. If God didn't have a purpose for us we wouldn't be here, so Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. (Leave the rest to God) Silence, in the face of evil, is itself evil. Not to speak is to speak, not to act is to act. God will not hold us guiltless.
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