I know it's not me...

spoggy · #1 08-26-2014, 10:55 PM

But just got home from taking my daughter to a treatment center in central Tennessee. Our biological daughter passed in 2009, and was nine years old. The one we have is adopted and 19. None of this is her fault, it's how she was raised, what she saw, how she was treated. She's got a good home, but we haven't had enough time. She's a great kid and I love her to death, I'm just scared for her, and I miss her. Sorry to whine, just feeling a bit unsure.

Destroyer · #2 08-27-2014, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by spoggy

But just got home from taking my daughter to a treatment center in central Tennessee. Our biological daughter passed in 2009, and was nine years old. The one we have is adopted and 19. None of this is her fault, it's how she was raised, what she saw, how she was treated. She's got a good home, but we haven't had enough time. She's a great kid and I love her to death, I'm just scared for her, and I miss her. Sorry to whine, just feeling a bit unsure.

You don't say what the problem is, but I can guess. There are others here that have faced similar and can probably offer you more help than I can. Just know that she (your daughter) and your family are included in my prayers every night. I can only guess at the heartbreak that must have befallen you at the loss of your other daughter. No parent should ever outlive their children. My son was in a really bad motorcycle accident a few years back, and although he lived, I can state categorically that when we got that phone call from the state police telling us of the accident and that he probably wasn't going to make it the bottom fell out of my heart. We got lucky, and I truly believe it was because of all the prayers to God. I pray the same for your daughter. God bless...

phatdaddy · #3 08-27-2014, 07:22 AM

spoggy, the fact that your marriage survived the loss of a child says a lot. the divorce rate it those situations is very high.
the fact that you opened your home to a child in need also says a lot
the hardest thing i had to learn as a parent is patience & persistence,
best of luck

Stinky_Hooker · #4 08-27-2014, 07:34 AM

I draw from what you said by "treatment center" that it for addiction of some sort. I work at one for teens if i can answer any questions let me know.

Also coming from someone who is just over a year sober, trust me good times are on the way if she will stick with it. I thank God Ive never been happier in my life.

randlemanboater · #5 08-27-2014, 07:38 AM

Praying for you and her.

Addiction can tear families to shreds, it is a disease that requires treatment to survive.

Kudos to you and her for getting help.

RidgeRunner · #6 08-27-2014, 09:33 AM

Whatever her ailment, hang in there. I am hoping for something a little less, critical, like a skin rash for example.. I suspect you wouldn't be brewing over it if it were simple now would you.. With respect to turmoil, you are not alone. You are in good company. It isn't hard to find someone worse off, so that helps put it into perspective for me. Best wishes to you, we are thinking about you.

bradford · #7 08-27-2014, 07:55 PM

Prayers sent Spoggy, stay strong and hang in there. Lots here have gone through similar life hardships and can relate or give advice.

"Sorry to whine, just feeling a bit unsure."

Never doubt yourself!!

spoggy · #8 08-27-2014, 08:32 PM

I want to thank everyone for their encouragement and support. It's been an incredibly difficult road over the last 5 years, and I know I don't have a lock on family issues and dysfunction, but sometimes it gets hard to sit and not say something. The boat I bought a couple of months ago was to be for a little "water therapy" for me, and eventually the rest of the family. Even that's been a struggle, and I'm probably still looking at a month before I can get her wet. I appreciate everyone here giving me a little space to vent.