My Mom
 

Today is her 73rd Birthday!!:happy:

But that's the good news as, My mom has not felt well for a few years now, and 3 weeks ago she went to a walk in center as she was not feeling well.
They then sent her to a x-ray and then for a cat scan, after which they said they thought she had Cancer!
Long story but after the last 3 weeks and many, many test's she was told yesterday with me and my 3 brothers at her side that she has stage 4 Small-cell carcinoma, it is in her lungs, brain,stomach, and chest!!
After a long talk with the Doc they are going to start Chemo next week, But this is just try and make things a little better as she is very ill and lots of pain.
The Doc then went on to say she will most likely DIE with-in the year!!

We were floored!:sad:

We have friends and relatives from out of state coming in this weekend for what we hope will be a Great B-Day party for her !

But she has no desire to see anyone or even go out of the house, which i can understand. But I really want to make her last days GREAT.
I have offered to take her on vacation any where she wants! I mean anywhere!! And she wants to do nothing,I am hoping this will change? But maybe its more what I want then her? She has had a very hard life and at times very difficult, not to mention 4 sons that really treated her poorly in are young years. But we all have turned out pretty well because of her!! And all Love her very much!

Sorry to go on and on everyone!! But if you can all keep her in your Prayers as she is very religious, it will be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks for listening!

Prayers sent brother! I wish you and your family well! As Im sure your mother already knows, the doctors only know what The Great Physician has empowered them with. Let them do what he has taught them and HE will take care of the rest!

Your mother and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

sorry to hear that mj, went through similar situation with my dad. we were able to get hospice involved from the begining and they were a great help.

Very sorry to hear this and of course prayers are in order for her......mayb, just maybe, she will beat this. My fingers are crossed for you and her.

My mother is 78 and has been going thru treatment since the spring of 09. She went thru a hysterectomy, radiation, chemo and was given a similar prognosis. She was initially deeply depressed, she still is a bit at times, but shes come to adjust to it and accept it as part of her life. She used my daughter as inspiration to get thru the tough times of chemo. My daughter told her is she could handle it, then grandma could. My mother has surpassed the expectations of the doctors.
It's a tough situation, it seems my family has been in it in one way or another for the past 10 years. We looked at it initially as why have we been singled out, it didn't take us long to figure out we're not singled out, cancer is all around us every where, people are living and fighting it every day, everywhere you go. We are now involved with three different organizations that deal with cancer in children. We've meet and lost some good friends, its when we are surrounded with others that we realize that we haven't been singled out. My family has been strengthened by the people we've met thru it all. My mother now looks forward to the time at chemo so she can talk to the other patients there, shes met a lot of new friends, young and old, its a common bond thru them all. Her water aerobics class(part of her rehabilitation process) is the highlight of her week. I'm not going to patronize anyone by saying "its going to get better" and all the other cliche's that we hear. And as hard as it sounds, it is part of life, just one more challenge that we have to endure. When my wife went thru treatment and operations, she told me she was looking at it (much to my dismay) as the boob reduction she always wanted. One day when she was pumping gas, a women(complete stranger) noticed my wife( no hair from chemo) and walked up to her, she told my wife it was OK, this women was also survivor. My wife had been in the dumps that day, but those words from a complete stranger lifted her spirits. Our friend Erik went thru gamma knife treatment yesterday, he's taking today off, but he's going back to school tomorrow. He's had the maximum amount of radiation allowed for his life, he's still taking chemo each day and will for a while. He's determined to graduate high school and get accepted to college, at 17 years old he's been given a 30% chance of making it to his next birthday, this will be his forth time fighting cancer at his young age. he accepts it as another challenge of his life, he's determined to live and not let it run his life.
Best wishes to you and your mother, our family will keep you both in our prayers. Tell your mother to keep her head up, its just another day and another challenge of life, we all go thru it each and everyday.

My prayers to you and your Mom, sorry to hear this.

Thoughts and prayers MJ. What a tough thing for your family to find out.

We'll be thinking about you and your mom....

Wish it wasn't so...
 

What a blow. It takes a while to process the bad news, the sooner she comes to realize there is nothing she can do about it, the better. The acceptance stage takes some time. She will come around. When she does, I hope you get to treat her to something nice. Going down that road is never easy but a positive mindset and prayer beat the dickens out of depression and bitterness for all concerned..
I just got a clean report for the 13th year running. I remember when I got the bad news like it was yesterday. Hang in there.

Happy birthday to your mom!

I will keep her in my prayers.

AMEN!

THANK YOU EVERYONE!!

We are having a small get together tonight for her birthday, and a big outing is planed for her and all sat. night.

I am hopping to let her read this when she is feeling a little bit, in hopes she would feel a little better that other people care, Thanks all for your kind words!!

MJ, give her our best wishes and Happy Birthday too!
You also take care, prayers and thoughts to you both.

My prayers are with you and your family .....give her a hug as often as you can ....it helps...

Tell your Mom Happy Birthday from all of us! Really sorry to hear that kind of news, we're all praying for her and your family. Spend as much time with your parents as you can, its probably the best thing you can do for both of you. I lost my dad suddenly from a heart attack almost 32 years ago and my mom 4 years ago from strokes. I know what you're going through and its extremely tough. Keep your chin up, the man upstairs is looking after all of us. She's still here, enjoy every minute you have!

sorry to hear, big guy. i wish your mom many more birthdays. peace.

Mj...Miracles really do happen with prayer. My mom is a colon cancer survivor for 35 years now.. and she was given less than a year to live. Prayers do help, as well as a positive attitude and a will to survive.
So Happy Birthday to your mom, and as my Birthday present I'll add my prayers to those that are already promised... And like it says in my sig, Leave the rest to God.

Thanks again guys!!

We had a small cake for her tonight and will be having a Big party Saturday night for her.
Not sure she is up to it, but we are going to do it any way, just can't lay there and wait for it!
She was able to get out of the room tonight and have a small piece of cake with us which was great! But kept going in and out of her room from time to time.
I told her that I have told all of you and at first she was mad, saying I don't want everyone on Facebook to see it! I said it was my site not Facebook and she felt a bit better about it but would not come and read it as of yet.

But she will at some point and I will make sure of that!

my wife tells me this is my "facebook", I tell her its better, no one here is writing crap I don't want to read about :sun:

Happy Birthday to your mom!!:happy:


I think Ridge is right...it'll take some time, but hopefully she'll want to go out and do some things for herself and others...you guys have faced some pretty tough health issues up there...we'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best...

Sending Prayers your way. Watching a parent suffer is very difficult.

Happy Birthday wishes to your Mom MJ. Our prayers are that God would heal her, and grant her many more years.

MJ I added you and your mom to my prayer list.Be sure to tell her as often as you can the words I love you .Don't know any women who don't feel better hereing them.

MJ, Mom and family are in our thoughts. Never easy to see our moms deal with these kind of things. Hang in there and best wishes to you all.

Thanks!!

Last night was a good night for her, i brought my uncle (her brother) from NY over there and had a good visit!
Was talking to her and we manged to talk her into going out with us tonight to get dinner. i going to get her a nice lobster! she said she did not know how much she could eat?? i said no matter she can take home and eat whats left.
what she does not know is i have 30 people going there to celebrate her birthday :happy:
i am having all go there first and we will come in and met them! hoping she has a good day today so she can enjoy it!!

Sorry to hear about your Mom MJ. I just went thru a scare mine turned out negative but until you get "the test" results you have thousands of things go thru your mind, waht needs to be done right then what info everone needs to know etc.

Hope she has a great time.

MJ, Having been through this so many times with my mom and sister it helps to be as possitive as you can .and have faith in God. I will have your family in my prayers.

Tell your Mom we said Happy Birthday. Ya'll are in our prayers.

Well it was not a good day for mom :cen: she slept most of day waking just for fluids and pain meds.
I went to her house early in the day and tried to get her up and moving but no luck.
I met all at the restaurant later on and we had a great dinner but it was depressing that it was for mom and she could not make it.

Today was much the same, nothing to eat never coming out of bed. Going to call tomorrow about getting some help for her as far as showers and personal care.
Doc says she is so week that he is not even sure he can start chemo on Wed??
Just a month ago she was sick and getting around, now just watch her barely able to move around. Doc says she was very strong and thats why it took so long to put her down.

Very sorry to hear this. (Just saw the post as I am recovering from a bad flu).

Sorry, I suck at writing encouraging thoughts. Believe me, I feel your pain and I wish you, your family and mom well.

Hang in there MJ,

rkc

MJ, sorry to hear the bad news. Your mom and family are in our prayers.

very sorry to hear about mom
prayers sent!

Thanks all!!

I was there all day mother sitting 2 day while my brother had to get some thins done, she was awake and talking to me the whole time! :love:

I called the Daner Farber Cancer center today and explained all, We are having all records faxed there tomorrow and then they will make her a appointment with there people for a 2nd opinion.
she said she did not want to piss off her current doctor, i said you will not!! Hell if someone told me i was going to die you bet your *** i want to know they were right or wrong! Heck i had a 2nd for my eye surgery!
Also called Hospice today to see if they can offer some help in a few areas also.
So we are trying to get things taken care of for her, she is to start chemo on wed, Hope that goes well for her??

Sorry if I am boring you guys but its nice to vent here!

Thanks!!

MJ that's what real friends are for... They stay with you in the bad times as well as the good. You're not boring, and you're not venting. You're trying to work your way through a terrible situation. I wish we could do more than just listen and pray, but sometimes that's all that's needed. Hang in there bro.

MJ sorry to hear about your mother. My prayers areher and your family.

That's great you are going to dana farber. I had the same issues with both of my parents trying to get them out of toby into boston.

Doctors are used to that, no need to worry.

Keep us updated!

rkc

I told MJ to check out Dana-Farber as they now have a satellite facility in Weymouth. I went there for some treatments and they are fantastic over there. And it's still much easier than going into Boston as I had done in the past.
I think his Mom will like them.

yes and we are having all faxed there tomorrow.
thanks CB!

Hospice person meet with us today and were very helpful!! her doc would talk to them today and they wanted to come tomorrow, but i said its her first day of chemo that thur might be a better option for them to come and get her in rolled with there program.

They offer a nurse 24-7-365 for what ever she may need even a visit at 3 am if they can't help on the phone! Also a personal care person to help with showers, light cleaning, heat up or make simple meals, volunteers for companion ship , even church at home!
Everything is FREE! with her health ins.

Keep us posted MJ. Some of us have gone through similar situations in the past and some of us will sometime in the future. God bless.

well said spares im lost for words