Having gone through this with one parent and living with another coming soon I think all of us really can feel your pain.
Enjoy the time with him, and never think that even those that appear to be gone mentally do not have an appreciative Spirit inside.
Do what you have to do to ease your wife's anxiety and go fishing with a friend or on a head boat type thing.
Good luck to you and a prayer said for you Father In Law.

My dad caught Alzheimers when he was 82. He lasted till he was 92 and it finally killed him. It's a horrible sickness because it slowly destroys the person you loved and leaves only the shell. People wondered why I didn't cry at my fathers funeral. My only reply was that my father (his personality) died 10 years earlier. If I could offer just one bit of advice to todays youth it would be to treasure all the time you have left with your parents. It goes by so quickly, and when they go there is this hole inside of you that will never be full again. Savor the moments.

Hey guys, thanks for all the kind words, some of you have been through hell, i guess we all go through it. thank's really.

A tough time, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing.

Through starting this thread i have learned many things about some of you that i may not have otherwise known! I just feel that a man who has been strong and independent his entire life should remain proud, and never actually have to ask for help when he has family so close by. if i dont do this for him how can i possibly have the rite to expect anyone to ever want to do it for me when my time comes. i was not blessed with any sons but i have three great son inlaws. they know whats going on and i hope they learn from this. What Willy said is rite on . Iwould not have been comfortable starting this thread on any other site i frequent. . oh and i already see the stress level drop in the mrs which in turn makes my life easier too. she just has dad and her crazy husband to worry about now.