Mother's Day Sunday

[Airslot]

This is a public service anouncement for any of you M O R O N S out there who just may have forgot if it weren't for this post. ;D

This is also wishing all you muthers a Happy Muthers Day ;D

[tsubaki]

;D
ditto
;D

[THEFERMANATOR]

I remembered it, but I choose to ignore it. You don't want to know why.

[randlemanboater]

WHY?

[THEFERMANATOR]

Sure you wanna know?

[tsubaki]

Well I do. ;D

[lumberslinger178]

therm, sill it ;D

[THEFERMANATOR]

Well then, 2 years ago I was in ENGLEWOOD fishin with a buddy because my mom didn't want to do anything for mothers day. Well SATURDAY night I get a phone call from her at 10P.M. and she says she wanted me take her out for mother's day on my boat. So I drop everything and drive 2 hours at 11 0' clock to get home(after fishing since 5:30 that morning). Get some sleep and get up early and load up my boat and gear and everything to go with. And I sat ALL DAY LONG waiting for her, and she never showed. She had spent all day with her new boyfriend, and blew me off entirely. But you also need to bare in mind this was only a year after my father had passed as well. And I NEVER left her through that hole time, but I got blown off like nothing. Made me a little bitter you might say. And she blew me off again last year and spent it with her boyfriend and his daughter. So I don't celebrate mother's day for now, not until I have kids of my own.

[Airslot]

Ferm, don't hold it against her, she's had to go through some tough times as well I'm sure. We all deal with things in our own way, but ya only get one MOM. Here's to hopin things work out fer ya.... ;)

[charlie_the_tuna]

I DISAGREE. GO ON, HOLD YOUR GRUDGE.
TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY.

[msbhammer]

Therm, I know where you are coming from brother.
Father and I had a fist fight about 20 years. Havent seen or spoken to him since that time. During those years of not speaking, he didnt even try and see my daughter. Well, my father is gone now. Still wonder if we should have tried to patch things up or not. We are both stubborn guys. Hopefully it will work out for ya. ;)

[reelapeelin]

Send her a card and carry on...

[parishht]

Well Therm, My $.02,
My mother died of cancer, we had a good relationship.
Now the bad, my wife's mother has disowned my wife and I,
my wife has tried on numerous occasions to patch things up.
No dice, her mother is as narcisistic as all get out.
Three years ago , my older son got married in L.A.
and my mother in law put us through he77, she made the hole occasion
about her, she wanted to do this, she wanted to do that
and on and on.
My wife still gets upset, because of blood ties,
but I think when her mother passes, the wake will not be a memorial,
I think it will become a party with little people singing,
that song from the Wizzard of OZ,
the witch is dead, the witch is dead, ding dong, the witch is dead.

Sorry for the rant guys, this post just hit a nerve.

[charlie_the_tuna]

sorry guys. i have a great relationship with both my parents.
unfortunately i will be working.
my gift to my wife (as usual) will be her spending the day with the two stooges.

[reelapeelin]

Let's face it ... being a mother, father, son, daughter, brother or sister is no assurance against bein' a A$$HOLE!! ;) ...

[willy]

I have been very fortunate in those relationships, mine and in-law. Thank God cause I have seen some bad ones too.

I would say, if possible, don't let life go too long without extending a hand. If like Hammer's situation and many others if it is slapped away you can live with yourself when the inevitable and unexpected day of no return comes. And who knows, questions may be answered, history preserved and regretts avoided.

And Ozzie happy mothers day you @%$!&*(!!!%$#

[reelapeelin]

Well you ol' %&*$#@$%&%$#@#%^* ... and a Very Happy Mothers Day to you as well ;) ...

[Airslot]

Sorry that I struck a nerve guys, but it is nice to see that a little luv was finally exchanged amongst some of the board Muthers. ;D

[THEFERMANATOR]

Didn't hit a nerve here, I just don't celebrate it. I still talk to her, I even live in the same place as her. She spends most of her time with her boyfriend anyways. So I stay and keep things goin. My sister passed away at the age of 32 last year as well, so this is another reason I stay. I'm still here for her, but mothers day doesn 't get observed by me anymore for her. Call it cruel or callused, or just plain stubborn. But I know all about losing family under bad terms, me and my father had a fight the morning of the day he passed. So I know how it is.

[TunaHead]

Personally I had a really rough relationship with my dad when I was young. I grew up having to work in his cabinet shop. In 7th grade I was working 10+ hour days on the weekends. His friends always told me how much I would appreciate the skills I was learning when I grew up. Bullpuckey...I just felt oppressed.
Now my relationship with my folks is great and, it turns out that his friends were right. I can build anything I want (see pictures). I owe those folks so much...

They are in their 70's now but both mom and dad are going fishing with me in Baja next month.

TunaBuilt greenhouse
http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s76/TunaHead101/outside.jpg

TunaBuilt trellis and covered BBQ area around the patio
http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s76/TunaHead101/Patio.jpg

For what it's worth... TunaBuilt ribs just beginning a 6 hour low 'n slow smoke.
http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s76/TunaHead101/Ribs.jpg

[charlie_the_tuna]

dam dude. you're just having a string of sh!t luck aint ya.

[willy]

LMFAO ;D

Nice work Tuna, we expect some fine woodworking, a little teak etc. to show up on the V :D

[willy]

Sorta like this

http://www.wellcraftv20.com/gallery/albums/album06/A.jpg

http://www.wellcraftv20.com/gallery/albums/album06/D.jpg

That is Emmet Fitzpatricks V20 ;)

[TunaHead]

Jeez, you guys just got me all excited about starboard. Now I hafta start over.

Seriously though... that boat is purdy but mine will never look anything like that. She's gonna be LOVED and by that I mean fished hard and frequently treated to the scrape of SCUBA gear accross the deck.

As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[scook]

I gotta throw in with the "patch it up if you can" guys. My wife's Dad was a real SOB - I LOANED him a beautiful little outboard motor that I got from an older guy that I really looked up to and the jerk SOLD it with his boat before he died (typical for him). But she made the effort to hook up and feels really good about what she did. When they'e gone, they're gone. We're having Mother's day with my Mother-in-law who's 91, walks several miles every day and is the opposite of all the mother-in-law jokes - I definetly got lucky.

Happy M.D. from out west.

[msbhammer]

Great Pics. Tuna. Great Work as well. Love that V that Willy posted. Tuna as far as scuba gear goes, well...I just installed one of your basic platforms that you see on all the V's just last season. Looks like maybe next week I'll be yanking it off and selling it. I think I got something that will mount all the way across the stern and sticl out about 30" off the stern. Well know more Monday. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

[THEFERMANATOR]

Does MJ know? ;D

[macojoe]

I do now!! ;)

Well I have had it hard with both parents but since this is mothers day, I will talk about that.

Mom and dad divorsed when I was 9 years old, dad was a drinker wife and child beater to boot!
for years we were very poor and never had much, But mom did what ever it took to keep food on the table, not always being the best mother but doing the best she could with what she had.

As the years went on things got better and better, and I got older and was a real pain in the a$$ as a young teenager! (if you can belive that) well at 17 I got in some trouble with the cops, minor but none the less mom sent me to VT to live with dad, someone I hated, but I gave it a shot.
7 months later I returned to mom after dad and I went at it, lets just say there was a axe involed and I was holding it!

After I got home things were much better, mom got a better job, nice car and things were great for my 3 younger brothers.
I on the other hand had a chip on my shoulder and was mad all the time, so mom and I were at each others throats all the time.

When I was 18 high school drop out and no job we faught all the time, and one day she packed up all my stuff threw it out side and told me not to come back!

She says all she wanted was for me to come up and say I was sorry, but being a hard head I am I left took my stuff and moved in with my now wife of 26 years.

We went years with out talking, and at 24 I was having my son, and we started talking again, I was more mellow by now and so was she.
Things went well for a few years and we said if we ever fight we just go are own ways and call each other the next day, and go for coffee.
Well we still faught all the time over a lot of stupid little stuff. But were able to keep some order to it some how.

Any ways here we are 27 years after threw me out of the house, yes we have are little spats, but we get along fine!!

i got her a 8# Lobster last year for mothers day (she would kill for lobster!!) This year she is in NY with her own mother and will not be here till the end of the month.
We talk every day and I love her to death, but it is diffacult at times!! I just say its that she is 70 now and loseing it LOL

Guys I know how hard it is, but be the bigger man and reach out, before its to late!!

well thats my story!!

Happy Mothers Day and all the othyer moms out there, We love you all!! :-* :-* :-*

[Airslot]

Yo Tuna, what happened with them ribs ;D

[tsubaki]

And here Tuna was saying he's "just a nurse". :D

[TunaHead]

Slot, as I remember it took me a couple of hours to get through all of 'em. :-X

MJ, glad things worked out with you and your mom. Thanks for sharing that.

[reelapeelin]

Happy Mother's Day, ya'll... ;D ...


Bet I know what happened to those ribs ;) ...