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RWilson2526
10-15-2010, 09:27 PM
Hey guys, I guess I'll be off the scope for a few days as I just got the call today that my mom passed away....Not really an all of a sudden kind of thing but unexpected none the less. She had bypass surgery a year or two ago and has had issues with diabetes and Lupus for the past few years but everything had seemed pretty good all along....Of course she would never let us kids know anything as my family tradition was always to withhold information as to not upset anybody.

She went in for an endoscopy and colonoscopy 2 weeks ago for some serious heartburn and while doing the procedure stopped breathing and heart nearly stopped....put her on a ventilator for a day, got her off of it only to have it happen 2 more times in the next several days....after transferring to another hospital and doing cardiac tests found out one of her bypassed arteries was gone again and her right heart valve was leaking badly....had planned a valve replacement and another bypass for early next week once she got some strenghth back but had another "episode" today and died literally in my dads arms this afternoon after saying she was feeling faint and waiting for a nurse to get back.

Definitely a surreal experience....I have my life and my kids and I will miss her badly at times I'm sure when I think to pick up the phone and give a call now and again but the empathy/sympathy for my dad is a reall killer....We always joked that my dad better go first because if my mom goes he's screwed......Fortunately my parents are both very active in their church and I'm sure their friends there will be great support for my dad. I just have to convince him to accept everyones help that I'm sure will be coming his way.


Heading down to Floriday tomorrow so I'll catch you all when I get back.

joe7670
10-15-2010, 09:40 PM
Sorry to hear that bro. Our depest condolences for you and your family.

phatdaddy
10-15-2010, 10:11 PM
sorry for your loss, RW. keep an eye on your dad, lost my mom 18 months ago and my dad seemed fine, but after 63 years of marriage, he is still hurting from her passing.

cfelton
10-15-2010, 10:13 PM
I'm really very sorry to hear about your mom. I lost mine 2 years ago and still sometime think about picking up the phone and calling her up. You only have one Mom! Try and spend as much time as you can with your Dad, he's really gonna need you now. Deepest condolances go out to you amd your family.
Carroll F.

charlie_the_tuna
10-15-2010, 10:19 PM
i cant begin to imagine how hard this must be for you. you have my deepest sympathy. i'm so sorry for your loss.

willy
10-15-2010, 10:26 PM
You can never replace someone like that, you just have to cherish the memories you have. I am sorry for your loss my friend. I am not that far from you really, if you need anything that I can help you and your family with just let me know and I will be there.
My condolences and my prayers to you and your family.
Willy

NOTHING ELSE MATTERS
10-16-2010, 01:08 AM
I am really sorry for your loss. I know what you going thru, i lost my dad in 2000 at the age of 60 and believe me still hurts to today, i really miss that guy a lot, he's the one who taught me how to swim at age 3 and he is responsible for my fishing addiction, was a great fisherman too.

Destroyer
10-16-2010, 03:15 AM
Rob, what can I say that hasen't been said already. I'm so sorry for your loss. Like Willy, I too am not that far.. if you ever need anything or just want to talk I'm available 24/7. I'll include her in my prayers from now on.
Paul

Road King Cole
10-16-2010, 04:03 AM
I feel for you, lost my Mom last winter and my Dad the winter before. It's still hard to believe they are gone, but they are in my heart and I think about them often. My sympathies for you and your family.

chumbucket
10-16-2010, 07:55 AM
Man, what a blow. So very sorry for your loss Rob. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Cam
10-16-2010, 08:31 AM
Real sorry to hear about your loss.....you and you family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

nymack66
10-16-2010, 08:45 AM
Please accept my deepest condolences and prayers through these difficult times. God Bless continue to watch over you an family.
A lost of a love one at any age is difficult, I lost my Dad in a very tragic way when I was 19 to this day I still recall the facial expression of my younger sister who was 10 at the time, its why I cherish every minute here on earth. If there is anything I can help you with let me know.

Seacrets
10-16-2010, 09:14 AM
So sorry for your loss Rob.

lumberslinger178
10-16-2010, 06:34 PM
Sorry to hear the news Rob, Hang in there.

BuilderFL
10-16-2010, 07:05 PM
You have our deepest sympathies on the death of your Mom. Peace, prayers and blessings.

step up here
10-17-2010, 07:20 PM
sorry to hear about your mom, prayers will be said for her

reelapeelin
10-18-2010, 05:29 AM
Rob, you're a great guy...hate to see you and your family going thru a tough time...hope your dad does OK...my mom passed a couple of years back...I still wanna call her up from time to time and then realize I can't...

I know you'll miss her...

LESTERUS
10-18-2010, 07:22 AM
Very sorry about your loss, i dont know why, but it does not matter how old you are or how many children you have, when you loose your mother it feels like all of the sudden you're all alone.

CaptJ
10-18-2010, 07:42 AM
Sorry about your loss, bud. You and your family will be in our prayers.

Blue_Runner
10-18-2010, 02:23 PM
RW, hate to hear about your mom. Very sorry about your loss. Thanks for sharing the info. Speaking for myself and I'm sure others who still have their mom and dad it will certainly make us more aware of the fact that we cannot keep them forever.

Sincere condolences from NC,
Blue

RidgeRunner
10-19-2010, 07:13 AM
Sincere condolences to you and your family.

parishht
10-19-2010, 08:29 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences

RWilson2526
10-21-2010, 08:28 PM
Thanks for the thoughts everybody...you guys are the best.

Back home tonight getting ready to get back to the routine. My dad seems to be doing well but definitely will need to keep an eye on him...He was scared to death I think to go to the wake on Tuesday and said repeatedly he was only going to say thank you and shake hands because he thought it would be too difficult to talk about it....Well he talked to everyone forever that night and was great....Funeral service was beautiful...Like I said my parents are very active in their parish so the royal treatment was put out....Pastor was crying while giving the service several times...the other priests were the alter servers....It was something to see. It was really great to see how my mom (and dad) were so important and loved by so many people in their church....

Anyway...thanks again guys...

the daydreamer
10-30-2010, 10:58 AM
i am so sorry,our thoughts and paryers will be with you and yours. i lost my DAD at christmas three years this coming christmas i know yor pain.

macojoe
11-01-2010, 10:43 AM
Sorry I am late!! And sorry for your loss!!