View Full Version : Lost a good friend/happy thanksgiving.
charlie_the_tuna
11-26-2009, 11:02 AM
hey guys, i lost one of my oldest and dearest friends to a tragic accident on the 9th of november. he had moved his family up to vermont to enjoy the best that life had to offer and was taken from his family at the age of 46.
i am most at peace when surrounded by my family and spend as much time there as possible. for this, i am most thankful. my old friend joe left behind a beautiful young family and they are in my thoughts during this, what must be a most unbearable holiday season for them.
be thankful for what you have and make sure your loved ones are made aware often how important they are to you.
wishing nothing but peace and love to all of you on this thanksgiving. enjoy your families.
I am truly sorry for the loss of your good friend. My prayers are with his family. You are right, there is nothing better than being with family. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family and to all the members of this site.
phatdaddy
11-26-2009, 02:29 PM
ditto that charlie, lost my mom in may and taking my dad for a biopsy of a lung mass on monday.
love em while ya got 'em.....
Seacrets
11-26-2009, 05:53 PM
Prayers sent
willy
11-26-2009, 09:44 PM
Your a good friend Tuna Man, he knows that
chumbucket
11-26-2009, 10:02 PM
Sorry for your loss Chuck. Makes you appreciate and more thankful for what you have.
nipper
11-26-2009, 10:21 PM
Very eloquent CTT. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and condolences on your loss.
NOTHING ELSE MATTERS
11-26-2009, 11:02 PM
Sorry for your loss Charlie, prayers sent. I agree with you 100% on we have to be thankful of what we have.
spareparts
11-26-2009, 11:58 PM
Sorry for your loss Charlie, its hard enough to find friends, true friends. Its harder still to loose them. you have my sympathy, and my friendship.
RWilson2526
11-27-2009, 09:05 AM
Amen...
Blue_Runner
11-30-2009, 09:23 AM
I really hate to hear this. CTT, my heart goes out to you and your buddy's family.
reelapeelin
11-30-2009, 12:02 PM
Sorry for your loss, Charlie...I lost a good friend this past summer...it hurts and there's a great sense of loss...you have another reason to be thankful...one to remember every T'giving...
charlie_the_tuna
11-30-2009, 09:52 PM
y'know, i dont know if its because we're getting older but this one hit me pretty hard. joe was the third of our gang to pass.
we lost our good friend robbie when he was just a baby. we were 15 and it was just the most tragic thing ever.
then a few years back we lost another good friend, kav. we were in our late 30's and nobody was shocked because of the turn his life had taken in his last few years, but a terrible loss, nonetheless.
but with joe, well, its still kind of surreal because he was this young (relatively speaking) tough little family man who had been enjoying the best years of his life up in vermont. he was a brilliant musician, a skilled craftsman and back in his day a great athlete. he moved to vermont about 7 years ago with his beautiful wife lauren and her daughter from a previous marriage. they had a little boy 5 years ago and this little guy just took joe by storm. i met joe when we were 15 and we immediately hit it off. we were bandmates and basically together all the time.
lauren was the daughter of an old friend of my parents and i've known her forever.
i guess the worst part of this whole thing is the family he left behind. his wife is in such terrible pain that it kills me even to speak to her. jesse wont remember much about his father and given enough time joe will be only a vague memory to his beloved son.
i'm sorry to ramble on like this but i guess its just part of my healing process. man, this sucks.
chumbucket
12-01-2009, 12:04 AM
Ramble all you want Chuck. Let it out. That's what we're here for.
Find one good thing you guys liked even if it seems insignificant to some or do something small for his family. Then once a year, celebrate his life by remembering and doing that one little thing every year on that anniversary.
reelapeelin
12-01-2009, 08:05 AM
Ramble all you want Chuck. Let it out. That's what we're here for.
Find one good thing you guys liked even if it seems insignificant to some or do something small for his family. Then once a year, celebrate his life by remembering and doing that one little thing every year on that anniversary.
And if you can find a way to have that celebration be a reminder to his son of who he was, then his memory won't fade away...
My friend Nick passed away this past summer...standing in his hospital room w/all his family watching him labor for his last breaths was hard because I would have assumed him to be immortal...he was so full of life before he got sick, his passing would have never occurred to anyone...his family asked me to speak at his funeral, and to a standing room only large church, I recalled many of the good times that made Nick what he was...remember those times about your friend while you morn his passing...we all go at some time...apparently your friend left a worthwhile memory...smile when you think of him...
willy
12-01-2009, 08:25 AM
Every time I hear Don Henley sing a New York minute it crushes me just because of these types of things. Remember the times together with your friends and family. Be the best friend you can be to all who you know, in the end it is not the toys or the money, its those memories stored that are of great value. I always thought of photography, pictures of times together as one of the greatest gifts you can give to someone you care for because it catches these moments.
CTT keep a pic of your friend somewhere where you will see it often. In time it will not be something that makes you sad but something that brings a smile to your heart every day.
randlemanboater
12-02-2009, 04:05 PM
I am sorry to hear of your friends passing.
I am praying for you CTT, and your friends family.
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